Me = Dumped

[Carnage]

So yah, my girlfriend of about a year and a half just broke up with me

Shes bascially my life outside of wrestling and i really dont know what to do with myself now. Any advice on how to get over things like this is much apprecaited. Even though i dont know many of you in person your all good people and i appreciate any advice. Its definitly a shi*ty feeling ive got running up and down my body

Anyways...

Any advice, stories or whatever...

Thanks

-Kevin

[Agent Kev]

Best advice I can give is that you are young and still have plenty of your life to live. Have as much fun and experience as much as you can before you move onto the next phase of your life.

[Agent Kev]

So what reason did she give you?

[Carnage]

She didnt feel the same way anymore

I talked to a mutal friend *and one of my best friends* tonight and i know its not another guy because she has no intrest in finding anyone else. I think its a lot to do with the fact that weve had trouble making time for each other, her life is really stress filled right now and she probably felt like she was hurting me because she couldnt make the time to be with me

I still think we could have worked around it, and i wished she would have just talked to me. We had such a posotive relationship (no fighting, anger, mean things) for a year and a half for her to just stop feeling that way puzzles me. So im crushed and confused, but im still going to try and be her friend. Im hoping that she realizes how big a part of her life i was and that she misses me, but in my heart i feel that she can move on pretty easily (as my ex got over me in like, a day)

So we shall see as time comes, thanks so much for the advice kev, i really do appreciate it

[TheRick]

This is going to sound kind of odd, but here's my story:

In high school I had what sounds like a very simmilar relationship. My girlfriend and I dated for a year and a half and didn't ever fight, argue, nada. We broke up though because both of us were getting older and our goals were just going in opposite directions. We were still trying to find out who we were and it just wasn't working. That was three years ago and since then yeah I've missed her, but at the same time I've had a lot of great experiences I wouldn't have had if I were still with her. The best thing to do is just make the best of it and chalk it up to experience. Worst case scenario you had to have learned something about life or yourself.

Now what's really odd is all of a sudden, and I'm talking about two weeks ago, her and I started talking again. Yeah we stayed friends, but only talked like once a month or so. It looks like we're most likely going to get back together, but I guess that just shows that you can never say never.

I know it's going to suck for the next few days/weeks, but trust me, you'll live and come out a stronger person. Who knows, maybe you'll learn something about yourself you never knew with the time off. I know I did.

[Carnage]

That did help me feel a little better this morning

Thanks rick

And thanks everyone, sorry to post this kind of thing here but as i said i trust all of you and i know your advice is always good

Thanks again

[IWSfan4life]

Sorry for posting this so damn late, but I don't check this section of the board that often. I know it's been over a week now or whatever, but I can still try to help in some small way lol.

It's going to hurt for awhile, but it's supposed to, it's natural and that shows that you cared about her. Just pray about it (sorry to bring religion into it, as I dont know who believes in what) and try to enjoy yourself with the other people you care about. I know this may be cliche and oversaid, but I'm an advocate of "everything happens for a reason" and "one closed door means an opening for another". Lemme know how things turn out, and if you ever wanna chat or anything my SN is Indyfed2001. Take care man,

-jason

[Carnage]

Life Update:

So im still friends with the Ex. She dosent really have time for a relationship right now as i said, but i am still her friend and we talk everyday.

Thats Stylesclash for the advice and i respect your religious views as i have prayed in times of need myself, but mainly when it had to do with life/death. Right now im just lonely, although this friday night i went out with people from my college and my major and had a good time.

The big downfall of getting dumped when i did is i was JUST starting at a real college this semester and wanted to have someone to keep my grounded and keep me going while i faced the difficulties of being the new guy. Luckily i had friends at the college who helped pull me in and push me away when i needed to make friends on my own

Plus there is this REALLY cute girl who has liked me for a few years (i think...just the way she acts and how nice she always is to me) and just happens to go to RIC (my college) and be in the theatre department. She also does tech which im going to be doing, and lives in the city where my school is (i live about and hour away and have to commute). So that could mean something. Also this girl i work with who is HOT has been seemingly hitting on me and asking me to hang out with her...but she has a boyfriend

Either way i still deep in my heart want back with the ex because she meant so much to me. I just miss having someone to curl up and take a nap with, and almost be one with. We were pretty inseperable for a while, and we never didnt get along. So it was kind of odd that we broke up, but her love for me just change i guess and thats life. She needs to figure herself out and i need to put my focus on getting a career in the theatre...and getting my mack on

Thank you all for all your help, and hopefully this will be my last long boring life post that youll all have to deal with

[TheRick]

I say work on the first girl you mentioned as she seems like a better deal, but don't be above killing the hot chick's boyfriend if plan A doesn't work.

[Carnage]

TheRick said:

I say work on the first girl you mentioned as she seems like a better deal, but don't be above killing the hot chick's boyfriend if plan A doesn't work.

My plan exactly...mwah ha ha!

[IWSfan4life]

Sounds like you'll be just fine bro, time and confrontation heal things well (just meaning the more you talk to her as a friend and move on with other things in life, it won't be as big a hurt for you). Good luck on the girl going to your college, and lemme know how that turns out if you persue it. Enjoy college have fun, thats the most important thing to do at this time.

"hopefully this will be my last long boring life post that youll all have to deal with"

Hopefully not, because maybe then I'll have to start telling some of my hectic drama stories round here lol.

-jason

[Carnage]

Tonight i would actually say was worse than the intial break up, because after her telling me she thinks wed get back together someday and flirting with me like crazy...tonight she tells me she dosent think she will ever feel the same way, and then starts gushing about this new guy...

I feel like dieing...yah...fun times

[TheRick]

Don't die, just kill the new guy ;D

On a more serious and less illegal note, I know it must suck right now, but that'll eventually fade and you'll find somebody even better. Some day you'll be kicking back buck ass naked with your super model wife who just happens to be a hardcore wrestling fan and wonder why you even gave a sh*t about the ex.

[Voltage XX]

TheRick said:

Don't die, just kill the new guy ;D

On a more serious and less illegal note, I know it must suck right now, but that'll eventually fade and you'll find somebody even better. Some day you'll be kicking back buck ass naked with your super model wife who just happens to be a hardcore wrestling fan and wonder why you even gave a sh*t about the ex.

There ya go. Carnage, next show...we hook you up with one of the hot chicks at the shows. All, like....3 of 'em.

[IWSfan4life]

Voltage said:

There ya go. Carnage, next show...we hook you up with one of the hot chicks at the shows. All, like....3 of 'em.

Well...not to rain on the parade, but Becky has Jimmy, and Traci has Punk, so that leaves ONE.

On a more serious note as well, everything works out for the best Carn. Seriously dude, I know it's way too often spouted and pretty corny, but things happen for a reason and in the meantime just chill out and enjoy the good stuff you got in life. There are plenty of awesome girls out there, and everyone's time comes for happiness (except Tom actually. ;D ) Plus, whats life and joy without the crazy sucky times that you can reflect and laugh about later bro.

Take it easy
-Jason